I've a question with the fact that I hear folks, of any race, say things about how black men like fats white women and how the fats white girls cant get a white man, so they flip to a black man. I feel I'm normally drawn to, or have dated, other fit people because they're concerned in the identical sports activities and actions I'm involved in. 3. I'm liking this more and more
Sun, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:35 AM/EST
wayne I applaud the courage to ask a query you deem borderline. I've heard this from many individuals, even earlier than I met my husband......I still hear it, and do not understand it. My thoughts on the topics. I have a feeling I'm opening a can of worms with this query, but I have seen that black men seem to be interested in me, and "heavy-set" girls. I hope I dont offend anyone, I always wished to ask...... 2. Not offended...
Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 2:14 AM/EST
noreen Let's attempt to be sincere and open on this group. If the question is sincere, I'm not offended. I do have an excellent pal that I've talks with or see a movie with who weighs 400+ pounds. However he might by no means do bicycle touring or hiking like I spend my weekends doing.I've never noticed/heard the stereotype that black men desire overweight white women. My hope is that we may have the courage to ask the uncomfortable questions. I'm a physically match individual. I am curious to others experiences and emotions on this level. I was instructed by a member of my family that, certain members of my family suppose that's the reason i married a black man.
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On not figuring out about sure issues-America is a divided land culturally and i imagine that to be fact(perhaps a subject later). This may increasingly account for why some persons are all the time in the press. So as a minority tradition you could even be in tune with what the majority is doing. Quite merely we must know what the majority does to outlive and the majority does not essentially have to learn about the other cultural nuances to outlive. All of the other cultures have their own identities however all of their identities must enable them to be ready to keep a productive relationship with the majority culture right here in America. You have got the majority tradition("white") and also you also produce other cultures together with African American tradition. I believe that is why sometimes minority group members are extra aware of the rumors or more in tune with what the majority does.
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Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:37 AM/EST
wayne On the subject of beautiful girls- I consider African American tradition permits for many different body ideals for girls due to its personal therapy throughout time. I believe this manifests itself in the apparent positive self image younger black lady usually have of themselves it doesn't matter what their body type. It touched me and allowed me to see that I am lovely no matter whether or not I'm a measurement 5 or a size 12. In Florida while a teenager, I was around much more African American folks then I'm in Nebraska. I have no idea why..upbringing, help of community...but I do know that seeing the men and women behave in far better acceptance has influenced me. 8. Thanks
Tue, Sep 21, 1999 - 1:53 PM/EST
lmh That is Leslie (lmh) I haven't got much to say about this topic so I will not attempt to make one thing come out with meaningfulness. Well who shapes this goal? He still considers me cute and my dimension was by no means a difficulty. 5. Hello Colleen
Solar, Sep 19, 1999 - 3:Fifty eight PM/EST
mms In my experience when i first met my now husband I was 19, a size 3 and in keeping with my husband "cute". You see we each discovered about one another then we noticed what we both looked like...Certainly one of his first issues he stated was "I am black" my reply was "so and I'm white, is that a problem".We started off as associates and now that we have now met and he has met my chidren additionally they Love him..But to my Mother her thing is Black males beat their girl and so they love plus dimension girl. And for this I'm very thankful. African American tradition should train youngsters at an early age that many various choices can be found than what's conventional or that we view within the media. Why ought to I try for some other ideal these same corruptors have set forth? He loved her very much, the problem was that over the years of dating she had placed on quite a bit of weight. The women I saw were self assured, or at least they reflected this it seemed to me. As I read your post I used to be reminded of a radio speak present I had heard a number of months in the past that hit me in some ways. The present consisted of a white man, a white lady, and a black man. The black man gave an incredible hearty snort and stated, "All of the extra to love and hold on to!" His response was so trustworthy and it was apparent he was sincere.I had all the time been hung up about my dimension, at instances very unhealthy in my self image and thought that as a woman I must be thin yet curvy to be attractive. Callers wrote in to ask love advice and the three radio personalities responded on air with advice. For one I can never be white so there must be one other lady, a black lady, that may be very best. After 2 youngsters, 30 years, I'm a plus measurement additionally. They appeared to have a higher consciousness of who they had been and a comfort in their body shape and measurement, their inate magnificence, that I noticed lacking in my self and the white girls I knew. This morning the subject was a letter received by a young male who stated he & his girlfriend have been now engaged. The white man's response was 'dump her now', the white lady's response was anger that if he cherished her why does her dimension matter. 6. I bought the same reaction
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marian Colleen just such as you i received the identical response from my household. The same theoretical forces that shaped the false notions of African American culture. I've seen nonetheless that even at my heavy factors after having kids, it was typically Hispanic and African American men that would nonetheless see my magnificence. You fall in love with the particular person. I believe that some "White" folks just don't perceive what attracts you to somebody of another culture. This plurality allows for a more broad view of what's acceptable in every thing, not simply lovely girls. For those who can be wrong about me you may be unsuitable about different things. I all the time try to elucidate it like this, what if we have been all born blind, how would you recognize what colour we were. But to me its not the shade of an individual however the individual inside , and i received to know him from the inside first earlier than assembly the outer core. I want to say thanks very a lot for "opening a can of worms" as a result of you are helping us get to actual, trustworthy points which could be arduous! Maybe their weight want not be an element in their sexuality or femininity just like their color want not be. I'm also a plus size and once i first began chatting with my boyfiend(sure i met him on the internet),i felt complelled to tell him that i used to be no Tara Banks, he replied to me that he doesnt care concerning the body that i have been put in however the particular person i am inside. I have seen myself portrayed as a black person and it's not an correct picture. Learn more featured posts here or proceed studying thread 22 from Relationship Group 7. And as i have said to my household, I am Comfortable and so are my children..And if that's in order that black men love plus measurement lady, effectively maybe everybody ought to give us a chance trigger i'm not only dealing with the inter-racial factor i'm also coping with "Fats individuals are lazy and not sexy in any respect" And Colleen you requested that question earlier than i may and didnt take any offense to it..Thanks 7. Beauty
Mon, Sep 20, 1999 - 9:35 AM/EST
heather Colleen,
I applaude your decision to talk actually. We as Americans are fed this very best of a petite white lady as the goal or fruits of femininity. The man acknowledged that he was concerned of her measurement and her weight continueing to extend after marraige.